This advice comes from all that were once in your shoes!
It is never too early to start getting the details together! ~Jenna M.K. from Front Royal, Virginia.
Don’t try to please everyone, do you!!! ~Malorie W. from Memphis, Tennessee
Make sure you don’t have your bouquet in all photos, it hides your dress so much. ~Anonymous
Don’t stress if (and when) something doesn’t go the way you planned it to go. ~Stephanie S. from Olathe, Kansas
Make a photo list with names so you don’t miss any photos. ~Anonymous
Get a day of coordinator and don’t spend so much money on small details. People won’t notice and you’ll be so busy, you won’t get the chance to really appreciate the details you put in. ~Krystal M. from Dayton, Ohio
Don’t be a “boss” with anyone, especially the bridal party. Don’t have expectations from anyone. ~Anonymous
Start gathering decorations now, and putting money away for vendors. Make strong and stern rules for day of. My husband’s aunt kept bringing guests (who were not in the wedding party or immediate family) into our room while I was trying to get ready. Turn off your phone! Or have a designated person you can direct calls too. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. It’s stressful and most of those who are there early want to help. ~Andra H. from California.
At some point you just gotta say “fuck it, whatever happens, happens”. Make sure that day is at least two days before the wedding. ~Anonymous
This changed my life, a friend helped me! Write everything you need to do/buy/etc on a sticky note, then break it up into one day at a time! That way you’re only focusing on one to two small tasks a day! When it’s done it’s so satisfying to trash that sticky note and be done!” ~Christy H. from Portland, Oregon
This would be my crazy mind version:
Eat something and stay hydrated! Get a day of coordinator even if it’s a friend to help you so that your family and you and your spouse can enjoy themselves not stressing the small details of the day. Always remember things are not always going to go as planned. Keep a handy list of needed items because I forgot my shoes, the cake topper, and I laugh at this to this day LOL. I like this saying, “just think at the end of the day you’ll be married to your best friend”. ~Pam C. from Hartford, Wisconsin
Don’t let anyone else have their say, invite people you actually want on your day. Don’t stress over favors, table plans or even RSVPs. If they can’t make the time to tell you yes or no, they aren’t worth the stress! Your day will be perfect no matter how many bumps you have! Just enjoy the process and take it all in. ~Anonymous
Make sure to take a few minutes with your husband and take in the moment. You have been planning this wedding for what seemed like eternity and now you are married to the love of your life….and the last 24 hours have felt like 5 minutes. Seriously, Breath. You did it. Hold each other and look around to take in the scene. Notice who is doing a funny dance. Who is at the bar. Who is relaxing at the tables chatting. Who is telling a story. Who is laughing. Who is smiling. Who is looking at you? Just admire everyone enjoying themselves and remember the emotion. You are both with all of your loved ones celebrating YOUR LOVE. How does all this make you feel? Someone gave me this advice and I remember that moment 15 years later like it was just yesterday. That was the best moment of my wedding. Print this or something written up by the two of you and have your husband keep it in his pocket. Take it out when you find this moment. Read it. Do it. ~Jennifer M. from Nashua, New Hampshire (ME!)
Things will go array. People’s behavior will surprise and disappoint you ON that day if not already, so start not caring RIGHT NOW. The pressure we put on ourselves to please people who are in their own feelings about where they are in life as it relates to a wedding , “tradition” and all that crap means nothing without the sanity of you and your husband. ~Anonymous
Stay together!!! Don’t separate from each other, talk to guests as a couple. You want to spend your night together, not apart! ~Anonymous
Don’t stress over the people who don’t show up! And enjoy time with the loved ones that did! ~Anonymous
Go pee before putting your dress on…its harder to do it once you’re in the dress! ~Anonymous
If anything goes wrong, don’t let anyone else know it’s wrong. The appetizers may come out late. No one else knows that’s not how it was supposed to be. Just roll with it and enjoy your day! ~Anonymous
Stop shaving until the day before so that you have no razor burn on your pits! ~Anonymous
Have someone send a text out to everyone saying if they have any questions to text your maid of honor so your phone isn’t blowing up. ~Anonymous
