It is truly what matters – the big picture. Try not to “sweat the small stuff”. In the end, you will be married to the love of your life. The cake, the colors, the flowers….all of that really doesn’t matter (don’t hate me! lol).
Here is a little story that proves my point.
Tom moved to Minnesota. He was not there long before he realized he wanted to spend the rest of his life with Linda. He drove non-stop back to New Hampshire and proposed. He couldn’t get back fast enough.
The wedding was perfect in every way. There were just the right amount of guests so it felt like a big celebration, but intimate at the same time. This was not a first wedding for either, so it felt more simple. By simple, I mean no frills – just centered on their love.
The venue was also perfect. Both Linda and Tom had been living in or close to the same town for 20+ years. The chosen hotel was a town landmark and had a medieval feel. It was the place to go for any special occasion and man, this was a big one. Ironically, I spent my wedding night in the same hotel.
Linda wore an stunnng ivory lace dress. Not a traditional wedding gow, more of an evening dress. She was glowing with joy and so was Tom. The feeling was infectious. Everyone was relaxed. Dropping the pretentious bullshit made a difference. The emotion of the night made it one of the most elegant, intimate weddings I’ve ever attended.
When it wrapped up and all the guests went home, Linda and Tom headed to their hotel room. On the elevator ride up, Tom looked at Linda and said, “Hun, I didn’t get an ivory shirt, I could only find white”. They laughed, like belly laughed at the silliness of it. The insignificance of the color of his shirt.
That was the moment told in stories for years. You see, not a soul, not even Linda noticed. Everything was amazing. They were married.
Did it make any difference the shirt was not ivory? Not one fucking ounce. NOT ONE.
Moral of the story: it’s not the details that matter. It’s the big picture. The reason for it all: to promise love for a lifetime. The matrimony of two people. The end.
